While most of us have a basic understanding of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), it often comes from what we have seen portrayed in movies and on television. Some depictions are better than others, but even the best portrayals of PTSD cannot accurately convey how paralyzing it can be.

Post-traumatic stress disorder is a combination of symptoms, stemming from one or more traumatic events a person has either experienced or witnessed. The symptoms can range from mild to severe, and can occur rarely or daily. If you have a loved one dealing with the effects of PTSD, you might be wondering what you can do to help. No one wants to see someone they care about suffering and feel powerless with what to do.

So, how can you help them manage their symptoms and find peace and comfort? Here are a few helpful ideas that can make a big difference:

Educate Yourself

One of the most important things you can do to help your loved one with PTSD symptoms is to learn as much as possible about the disorder. That goes beyond what you will see on the silver screen.

Take the time to research some of the common symptoms and signs of PTSD. Your loved one may not realize they are dealing with it, even if signs are present. You can help them come to terms with their trauma and support them by letting them know it is okay to acknowledge what they have been through.

Be an Active Listener

It is not always easy for someone with trauma symptoms to open up about what they have been through. Talking about it can trigger flashbacks and negative thoughts. Some people who experience trauma also struggle with guilt or shame, so they do not want to discuss what happened.

You can do your part by actively listening and encouraging healthy conversations. That does not mean you should pressure your loved one into talking. Instead, let them know it is safe to open up to you, and they can speak to you without fear of judgment. They likely are experiencing a mix of feelings of helplessness, shame, danger, and disappointment about what happened. Offer emotional support, and never suggest what they could have done to handle the situation differently.

Learn Their Triggers

Opening up about trauma is not likely the only trigger your loved one is dealing with. Depending on what they have been through, everyday situations or settings could be difficult for them. They may be unable to go to certain places or be around certain people. Or, they may be able to endure those experiences but while experiencing feelings of anxiety, distress, or avoidance.

While triggers may not always be predictable, pinpointing some can help your loved one learn more about them and even avoid them, if possible. As they continue to heal and grow, they might be able to work through their triggers and overcome them. But, if they are still fearful, do what you can to help them with these problems.

Encourage Them to Get Help

Speaking of healing, that is precisely what your loved one deserves to do. PTSD symptoms can be mild or feel crippling – like they are it is taking over every aspect of life, but it does not have to stay that way forever.

If you see someone you love struggling with the effects of trauma, encourage them to seek out professional help. You can (and should) continue to be a support system for them. Be a listening ear, be encouraging, and do what you can to alleviate their fears, but do not feel like you have to take care of everything alone. A therapist can help your loved one get to the root cause of their PTSD. They will also help them identify triggers and develop strategies that will help them overcome their fear responses and symptoms. That does not mean the trauma completely goes away. Instead, it allows the one you love the opportunity to create a positive path forward, grow, and feel more “in control.”

If you or your loved one is interested in learning more about trauma therapy, or if they are ready to set up an appointment, do not hesitate to contact me today.